If you’ve tried everything to stop the hurtful behavior, what’s next?
You've tried talking with them, expressing your hurt or unhappiness, but they still don't seem to want to change their behavior. If you've done what…
Sometimes things need to be perfectly lined up to make the big decisions about the relationship
There's a point of either intoleration or breakdown that you sometimes have to reach in order to finally make a decision that you need to…
Understanding the addict in the manipulative relationship
Dealing with a manipulative and controlling relationship is bad enough, but what happens when the person doing the bad behavior is also dealing with addiction?…
Should you try harder to please the emotionally abusive person?
One of the constants in emotionally abusive relationships is when the victim tries to please an unpleasable person. No matter what they do or how…
How the emotional abuser takes your empowerment tools away from you
What is one of the most effective forms of emotional abuse? When the abusive person takes everything that empowers you away from you. All your…
Glossing over the first detail in an argument will make it fall apart fast
The first important point in a growing argument might be the most important one that gets glossed over. When that happens, the person trying to…
You deserve to be treated with nothing less than respect and kindness
When you've been mistreated for so long, you may begin to feel less worthy of love and affection. You might actually start to believe that…
Should you share content that talks about emotional abuse with emotionally abusive people?
There are times when you want to share what you learn on this show with an abusive person, but is it the right thing to…
What do you do when they’re gaslighting you?
Gaslighting, or "crazymaking" is one of the more insidious forms of emotional abuse. Those that do and say things to make you feel crazy want…
How incompatibility can lead to hurtful and emotionally abusive behavior
Simple incompatibilities are common in relationships, but what happens when they lead to emotionally abusive behavior? In this episode, I talk about the potential for…
Breaking the patterns of bad behavior that diminish your worth and well-being
Every now and then someone you care about makes a mistake and says or does something to make you feel bad. These one-offs are forgivable.…
Not everyone is going to agree with the decisions you make for yourself
What happens when you create a show about abusive behavior? You hear from people that aren't happy that they are being called out on that…
Toxic relationships can disintegrate your strength and confidence, but you can get it back
When the toxic relationship has worn you down, taken away your ability to think clearly, and chiseled away at your confidence and mental strength, it…
Can love enable those you care about to do bad behavior?
If you love someone, can you set them free to the point where they hit bottom? Sometimes the bottom is the only way back to…
I want you to change: The toxic elements of the difficult relationship
We can spend so much time hoping the other person will change so that our life will be better, but we end up missing out…
Emotional abuse drains you and makes you believe terrible things about yourself
There is a direct cause and effect when you are exposed to manipulative and controlling behavior. It can take a physical toll on you and…
You don’t have to forgive the person that hurt you
If someone hurt you, abused you, or wronged you in some way and you're still holding on to upset or anger toward them, how can…
Both sides of emotional abuse: The offensive abuser and the defensive abuser
Sometimes emotional abuse in adult relationships is the result of childhood trauma, neglect or abuse. Sometimes it's the result of the other person being abusive…
When boundaries don’t work and how to pick the right therapist
Do boundaries work with emotional abusers? I received this question from someone who has tried almost everything to work with her emotionally abusive partner but…
Connecting all the dots of emotionally abusive and manipulative behavior
Sometimes you just can't figure out if perhaps what you're experiencing is abusive or manipulative behavior. You may even think perhaps you're overreacting or seeing…
The Turn-Around game: How emotionally abusive people keep you busy explaining and defending yourself
Why does it always seem like you have to constantly explain or defend yourself with certain people? Are you just not coming through clearly? Do…
When the emotional abuse stops, can the relationship continue?
When the trust breaks and there is no love left in the relationship, but the emotional abuse stops, is there a chance for it to…
When you are triggered by your Facebook friends: Staying out of abusive interactions on social media
If you've never gotten triggered by someone's post on social media, you may be one of the lucky few. It's those times you can't help…
Yes, the emotional abuser can change, but…
Why don't hurtful people stop hurting? Can the emotional abuser or controlling / manipulative person change? Can your relationship with them be saved? These are…
Understanding the thought process behind manipulative behavior
Manipulation originates with the desire to have something and doing anything you can to get it. I explore that topic in today's episode.
Dealing with adversity and toxic behavior in all your relationships
There's something that family, coworkers, friends, and even romantic partners can all have a common: They can sometimes be difficult to talk to. Some have…
Emotionally abusive behavior breaks apart what could be a good relationship
Emotional abuse and controlling, manipulative behavior have no place in a relationship. Whether it's romantic or with a family member or friend, the toxicity of…
You will never, ever be good enough for a manipulative and controlling person
Should you love more, do more, be more for another person that never seems to be happy? One method of control is to make sure…
Kind words carefully crafted to plant the seed of guilt and shame
Some people have a clever way of making you feel bad about yourself by complimenting you and using positive, supportive words that make it seem…
Why you get conned into the psychologically abusive relationship
If you've ever wondered why you felt a connection with someone that turned out to be controlling and manipulative, you were probably manipulated from day…
How to stop being hurtful and controlling with the people you love
When you hurt someone you love, you let them know that they are not that important in your life. If you believe you are the…
An analysis of emotional abuse: Breaking down the bad behavior
When someone shows you every single red flag you need to determine there is lying, control, and manipulation going on, at what point do you…
Is your response to their bad behavior emotional abuse?
After months or years of being emotionally abused, you may find yourself doing behavior that resembles the same type of behavior you're a victim to.…
When someone tarnishes your good name and reputation – The Smear Campaign
The smear campaign is a card often played by narcissists, sociopaths, and other emotional abusers to make you look like the bad guy. If you're…
If you leave me, I’ll kill myself – The ultimate abuse of your empathy and compassion
A suicide threat is the ultimate way to control an empathetic, caring person. If you're in a relationship with someone that threatens to kill themselves…
How to Take Care of Yourself In and Out of the Abusive Relationship
Strangled on her wedding night, survivor, Transformation Coach and author, Stephanie McPhail endured years of a physically and emotionally abusive marraige. After getting the courage…
When you love the emotional abuser so much you won’t leave
When you are in love with the person mistreating you, is there a way to improve the relationship? Can you make them understand how much…
Don’t show them how crazy you feel and sharing custody with the emotional abuser
Emotional abusers can make you feel crazy. They will convince you you've said things you didn't say, they'll remind you about conversations you've never had,…
Emotional Abuse explained for your friends, family, attorney, therapist or anyone else that may need to know what you’re experiencing
Emotional abuse victims have a very difficult time trying to explain what's happening to them to their friends and family. Often, loving, supportive people may…
The toxic relationship alters your view of reality making you think your future is dark
When you're in the thick of a toxic relationship, all you can see is a dark future with no way out. This skewed reality can…
You can’t fix emotional abuse, you can only heal yourself and hope they do the same
Trying to work as hard as you can to fix things you didn't break is exhausting and demoralizing. The first step to healing from emotional…
How judgment in relationships destroys love and connection
Judgment is the ultimate relationship destroyer. It is the key to creating a rift so wide that the relationship issues might get to the point…
Identifying the signs of toxic or manipulative behavior while dating
It can be a challenge to see the signs of toxic behavior when you first start dating someone, especially if things seem to be going…
Have they really changed or are they faking it? Learning to differentiate between true change and acting.
When someone in your life claims to have changed and promises to stop behaving badly, have they truly changed, or are they just pretending? Telling…
It takes two to build and one to destroy: The cheating partner works alone
When the partner of a cheater carries guilt, thinking their own behavior caused the cheating, the relationship can disintegrate even further, destroying the very foundation…
Are they for real: Is it all lies and deception or are you just going nuts?
The actor in the relationship can fool the best of us. When you can't tell what's an act and what's real, you soon start to…
How isolation ensures you lose your friends, family and support system
Isolation occurs when someone wants to keep you from your friends, family and support structures. You will become more dependent on the one who is…
In love with someone that wants it both ways: Healing from the obsession over the unhealthy relationship
Are you waiting for someone else to change so that you can get what you want? In this episode, I talk about an email I…
Stopping the downward spiral of unhealthy communication patterns with self-reflection
Sometimes a conversation with a certain person always seems to lead down a path of misery. You end up feeling bad and can't figure out…
There is nothing you could have done differently, emotional abuse would have happened anyway
Many emotional abuse victims believe they are at fault for the abuse, as if there is behavior they did to bring it on. The short…
How you enable manipulative and controlling behavior by being your wonderful self
When you are kind, generous and caring, and you get controlling and manipulative behavior in return, you may be the very cause of perpetuating it…
Yes, there are people that know how to control you and steal your power
We are often told that we can choose how to feel and that no one can actually control us. However, in emotional abuse and manipulation,…
The narcissist under the hood – The difficulty of explaining emotional abuse to friends and family
How do you tell friends and family about the emotional abuse from the narcissist when they don't see that behavior in them at all. In…
Are you with a manipulative person?
Would you know if you were being manipulated? Do you know what the look for? Manipulative people are experts are toxic language to make you…
The texts after the breakup: When breadcrumbing keeps you from reaching closure
Some people have a strange way of showing they care by sending you small messages out of the blue to get you to think about…
When manipulative people change your reality: Crazymaking and Gaslighting
Gaslighting and crazymaking are one in the same - they are both terms to describe a person that wants you to feel like you're losing…
Confusing you into submission: A common manipulation you may fall for again and again
Have you ever sat there feeling confused, frustrated or running out of patience listening to someone talk and talk? There is actually a method manipulators…
Remembering only the good times can sometimes perpetuate the bad times
It takes two humble people to work at the relationship, not one that's always blaming the other. When one person is always blaming and pointing…
Selfish people just don’t really care about you
If you've ever wondered why someone could be so cruel, it's time to accept that selfish people just don't care about you. Selfish people will…
Recognizing you are being emotionally abused when you don’t see the signs
When You’re Constantly Defending Yourself
Are You The Manipulative One?
Watching out for emotional predators. Are you being brainwashed into becoming a manipulation or emotional abuse victim?
The “You’re too sensitive” game
Don’t dismiss the red flags of manipulation and deception
