The Love and Abuse Podcast
The show about navigating the difficult relationship. From minor arguments to manipulative, controlling, and emotionally abusive behaviors.
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Love and Abuse: Learn about poisonous communication, toxic behavior, emotional abuse, and manipulation
In today’s world, emotional abuse, manipulative communication, and deceit are alarmingly prevalent, presenting a significant challenge to navigate life without encountering individuals intent
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In today’s world, emotional abuse, manipulative communication, and deceit are alarmingly prevalent, presenting a significant challenge to navigate life without encountering individuals intent […]
February 7, 2019
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In this article, I’m diving deep into a topic that’s both complex and critical: emotional abuse, manipulation, deceptive language, and any actions someone […]
February 8, 2019
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People who tell you you’re too sensitive are minimizing your experience and invalidating your emotions. […]
February 12, 2019
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You can be “groomed” into becoming the victim of emotional abuse or manipulation. Just like a child predator will groom his or her […]
February 15, 2019
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Do you think you are the person causing the problems in your relationship? Is your partner or family right about what they said […]
February 18, 2019
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Some people use a specific control tactic to avoid accountability for their bad behaviors: they keep you busy defending yourself. This approach allows […]
February 19, 2019
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When you can’t see the symptoms of manipulation or emotional abuse, do either actually exist? Is there a way to tell when you’re […]
February 27, 2019
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If you’ve ever wondered why someone could be so cruel, it’s time to accept that selfish people just don’t care about you. Selfish […]
March 1, 2019
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It takes two humble people to work at the relationship, not one that’s always blaming the other. When one person is always blaming […]
March 3, 2019
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Have you ever sat there feeling confused, frustrated or running out of patience listening to someone talk and talk? There is actually a […]
March 6, 2019
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Gaslighting and crazymaking are one in the same – they are both terms to describe a person that wants you to feel like […]
March 11, 2019
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Some people have a strange way of showing they care by sending you small messages out of the blue to get you to […]
March 12, 2019
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Would you know if you were being manipulated? Do you know what to look for? Manipulative people are experts at toxic language and […]
March 13, 2019
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One of the biggest challenges for someone dealing with a manipulative or narcissistic partner is that others don’t see what happens behind closed […]
March 15, 2019
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We are often told that we can choose how to feel and that no one can actually control us. However, in emotional abuse […]
March 23, 2019
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When you are kind, generous and caring, and you get controlling and manipulative behavior in return, you may be the very cause of […]
March 27, 2019
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Many emotional abuse victims believe they are at fault for the abuse as if there is something they did to bring it on. […]
April 10, 2019
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Sometimes a conversation with a certain person always seems to lead down a path of misery. You end up feeling bad and can’t […]
April 22, 2019
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Are you waiting for someone else to change so that you can get what you want? In this episode, I talk about an […]
April 23, 2019
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Isolation occurs when someone wants to keep you from your friends, family, and support structures. You will become more dependent on the one […]
May 6, 2019
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The actor in the relationship can fool the best of us. When you can’t tell what’s an act and what’s real, you soon […]
May 17, 2019
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When the partner of a cheater carries guilt, thinking their own behavior caused the cheating, the relationship can disintegrate even further, destroying the […]
May 24, 2019
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When someone in your life claims to have changed and promises to stop behaving badly, have they truly changed, or are they just […]
May 27, 2019
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It can be a challenge to see the signs of toxic behavior when you first start dating someone, especially if things seem to […]
May 29, 2019
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Judgment is the ultimate relationship destroyer. It is the key to creating a rift so wide that the relationship issues might get to […]
June 17, 2019
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Trying to work as hard as you can to fix things you didn’t break is exhausting and demoralizing. The first step to healing […]
July 10, 2019
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When you’re in the thick of a toxic relationship, all you can see is a dark future with no way out. This skewed […]
July 16, 2019
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Emotional abuse victims have a very difficult time trying to explain what’s happening to them to their friends and family. Often, loving, supportive […]
August 4, 2019
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Emotional abusers can make you feel crazy. They will convince you you’ve said things you didn’t say, they’ll remind you about conversations you’ve […]
August 7, 2019
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When you are in love with the person mistreating you, is there a way to improve the relationship? Can you make them understand […]
September 4, 2019
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Confronting the ultimate manipulation in a relationship, the threat of suicide is a very troubling and often abusive tactic. It’s a scenario that […]
September 25, 2019
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The smear campaign is a card often played by narcissists, sociopaths, and other emotional abusers to make you look like the bad guy. […]
October 9, 2019
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After months or years of being emotionally abused, you may find yourself doing behavior that resembles the same type of behavior you’re a […]
October 15, 2019
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When someone shows you every single red flag you need to determine there is lying, control, and manipulation going on, at what point […]
October 25, 2019
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When you hurt someone you love, you’re letting them know that they are not that important in your life. After all, why would […]
November 5, 2019
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If you’ve ever wondered why you felt a connection with someone that turned out to be controlling and manipulative, you were probably manipulated […]
November 16, 2019
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Some people have a clever way of making you feel bad about yourself by complimenting you and using positive, supportive words that make […]
November 21, 2019
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Should you love more, do more, or be more for another person who never seems to be happy? One method of control is […]
November 27, 2019
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Emotional abuse and controlling, manipulative behavior have no place in a relationship. Whether it’s romantic or with a family member or friend, the […]
December 12, 2019
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There’s something that family, coworkers, friends, and even romantic partners can all have a common: They can sometimes be difficult to talk to. […]
December 31, 2019
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Manipulation originates with the desire to have something and doing anything you can to get it. The extent that some people will go […]
January 14, 2020
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Why don’t hurtful people stop hurting you? Why can’t they see the harm they are doing to the person they are supposed to […]
January 30, 2020
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When you are triggered by your Facebook friends: Staying out of abusive interactions on social media
If you’ve never gotten triggered by someone’s post on social media, you may be one of the lucky few. It’s those times you […]
February 6, 2020
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When the trust breaks, and there is no love left in the relationship, but the emotional abuse stops, is there a chance for […]
February 12, 2020
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The Turn-Around game: How emotionally abusive people keep you busy explaining and defending yourself
Why does it always seem like you have to constantly explain or defend yourself with certain people? Are you just not coming through […]
February 29, 2020
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Sometimes you just can’t figure out if perhaps what you’re experiencing is abusive or manipulative behavior. You may even think perhaps you’re overreacting […]
March 24, 2020
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Do boundaries work with emotional abusers? I received this question from someone who has tried almost everything to work with her emotionally abusive […]
April 3, 2020
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Sometimes emotional abuse in adult relationships is the result of childhood trauma, neglect, or abuse. Sometimes it’s the result of the other person […]
April 15, 2020
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If someone hurt you, abused you, or wronged you in some way and you’re still holding on to upset or anger toward them, […]
May 7, 2020
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There is a direct cause and effect when you are exposed to manipulative and controlling behavior. It can take a physical toll on […]
May 22, 2020
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J.L.
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