Why do some relationships have to be so difficult?

They’re not supposed to be. When you have two people who care about each other and support each other’s happiness, you have the recipe for a long-lasting bond.

Unfortunately, some relationships can be quite challenging and even debilitating, especially when there is emotional abuse. When control and manipulation are introduced into our interactions, our relationships can become more difficult than they need to be.

Life is too short for a toxic relationship

Love and Abuse will help you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior. It will also help you unravel the mystery of emotional and verbal abuse, manipulation, narcissistic abuse, and deceptive behaviors by revealing what so many people outside the relationship can’t see.

There are some people who can trick the world by being kind, caring, and generous to everyone else but hurtful and sometimes downright awful to those they are supposed to care about most.

This show is here to guide you through confusing and hurtful behavior.

Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook on emotional abuse and manipulation in relationships. You do not need the workbook to follow along, but taking the assessment in the workbook will give you a very specific description of what you’re going through to help you pinpoint the issues that need the most attention in your relationship.

The assessment alone is worth doing to tell you what needs to be worked on and also tell you if there’s a point of no return for the relationship.

Use the podcast alone or with the workbook to give you a solid understanding of the state of your relationship so you can decide what steps you need to take next. The podcast and workbook will help you start your journey to regain your power and your life.

*All content on this site and in the podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. Always seek the advice of a medical or psychological professional before making any changes that could affect your physical or mental health.

Paul Colaianni
Behavior and Relationship Coach

Emotional Intelligence


I host both the Love and Abuse and The Overwhelmed Brain podcasts.
I am also the creator of the Healed Being program for emotionally abusive people who want to change. I currently live in Atlanta, GA, with my partner, Asha.

Want to know more about me? Click here.