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The empty threats that keep the abuse cycle alive

  • April 30, 2025
  • Paul Colaianni
  • Control, Emotional Abuse, Relationships, Vulnerability
When they threaten to leave or take something away from you, but they never follow through, expect them to repeat that behavior indefinitely. Empty threats are effective on those...
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When a relationship is not a relationship

  • April 16, 2025
  • Paul Colaianni
  • Arguments, Control, Crazymaking, Emotional Abuse, Relationships
“Everything’s great with me,” they say, as you sit there staring, confused, wondering what the hell you’re missing because you’re having a completely different experience as them. When is...
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Why abusive people need to maintain power and control over you

  • February 22, 2025
  • Paul Colaianni
  • Control, Emotional Abuse, Healing, Manipulation, Relationships
Some people just won’t stop being hurtful. Why won’t they stop? Are they just terrible people we have to accept and move on? Power and control is their M.O....
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A clever manipulation tactic that makes you believe you are the problem

  • March 2, 2024
  • Paul Colaianni
  • Arguments, Control, Crazymaking, deception, Emotional Abuse, Gaslighting, lying, Manipulation
There’s a clever manipulation that can happen in some emotionally abusive relationships. It starts with superficial kindness and vague promises and leads to blameshifting and avoiding true accountability. This...
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Avoid getting trapped into an emotional prison from which you can’t escape

  • August 6, 2023
  • Paul Colaianni
  • Codependency, Control, Emotional Abuse, Gaslighting, Relationships
The cycle of high ups and deep downs in a relationship is like being trapped in an emotional prison. There are moments of freedom and happiness, followed by a...
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Why they don’t stop hurting you when they see you hurting

  • July 1, 2023
  • Paul Colaianni
  • Boundaries, Control, Emotional Abuse, Relationships, self-esteem, self-worth
Why do people who claim to care about us hurt us when they see that we’re suffering? Shouldn’t our suffering be enough for them to stop the behaviors? It’s...
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Religious Abuse: When they use your beliefs and faith against you

  • March 31, 2023
  • Paul Colaianni
  • Control, Crazymaking, Emotional Abuse, Manipulation, Relationships, Religious Abuse, Shame
Your religious or spiritual beliefs are supposed to help uplift and inspire you, not make you feel oppressed and exhausted. Religious abuse happens when people who claim to love...
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The huge wall the emotional abuser puts up

  • January 29, 2023
  • Paul Colaianni
  • Control, Emotional Abuse, Relationships, Vulnerability
Why can’t they just change? Why don’t they just stop hurting you? Sometimes they’ve built such a huge wall of protection around themselves that nothing can penetrate it. They...
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The battles that drain your power

  • December 23, 2022
  • Paul Colaianni
  • Arguments, Control, Divorce, Emotional Abuse, Gaslighting, Manipulation, Relationships
The emotionally abusive relationship can be a battle. In fact, it can be a series of battles that wear you down and eventually wear you out. But at what...
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What will it take to finally get them to stop?

  • December 7, 2022
  • Paul Colaianni
  • Control, Divorce, Emotional Abuse, Enabling, Manipulation, Relationships
The person that hurts the one they love can do the behavior indefinitely unless someone is there to stop it. Usually, that someone has to be you. Stopping it...
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