When they believe they've changed
I get messages from those who are with someone who claims to have changed, but something doesn’t feel right to them. What they feel is
Some people would rather hurt you than be vulnerable with you
Some people become highly defensive or offensive when they want to hide something from you, or lie to you, or don’t want to be vulnerable
How many times does someone have to hurt you before you decide enough is enough?
There’s a point when there has been enough abusive behavior where you decide you’re no longer going to stand for it and it’s time to
What’s acceptable behavior in the relationship
When a relationship is difficult, it’s helpful to have an established baseline of acceptable behavior. If you don’t know what is acceptable and what isn’t,
Understanding the addict in the manipulative relationship
Dealing with a manipulative and controlling relationship is bad enough, but what happens when the person doing the bad behavior is also dealing with addiction?
What do you do when they’re gaslighting you?
Gaslighting, or “crazymaking” is one of the more insidious forms of emotional abuse. Those that do and say things to make you feel crazy want
Breaking the patterns of bad behavior that diminish your worth and well-being
Every now and then someone you care about makes a mistake and says or does something to make you feel bad. These one-offs are forgivable.
Emotional abuse drains you and makes you believe terrible things about yourself
There is a direct cause and effect when you are exposed to manipulative and controlling behavior. It can take a physical toll on you and
Connecting all the dots of emotionally abusive and manipulative behavior
Sometimes you just can’t figure out if perhaps what you’re experiencing is abusive or manipulative behavior. You may even think perhaps you’re overreacting or seeing
Yes, the emotional abuser can change, but…
Why don’t hurtful people stop hurting? Can the emotional abuser or controlling / manipulative person change? Can your relationship with them be saved? These are
