Emotional Abuse

The Turn-Around game: How emotionally abusive people keep you busy explaining and defending yourself

February 29, 2020
Paul Colaianni
Control, Crazymaking, Emotional Abuse, Gaslighting, Manipulation, Relationships

Why does it always seem like you have to constantly explain or defend yourself with certain people? Are you just not coming through clearly? Do they have trouble understanding?...

When the emotional abuse stops, can the relationship continue?

February 12, 2020
Paul Colaianni
Control, Crazymaking, Emotional Abuse, Gaslighting, Healing, Relationships

When the trust breaks, and there is no love left in the relationship, but the emotional abuse stops, is there a chance for it to heal, and can the...

When you are triggered by your Facebook friends: Staying out of abusive interactions on social media

February 6, 2020
Paul Colaianni
Anger, Emotional Abuse, Relationships, Social Media

If you’ve never gotten triggered by someone’s post on social media, you may be one of the lucky few. It’s those times you can’t help but give your opinion...

Yes, the emotional abuser can change, but…

January 30, 2020
Paul Colaianni
Control, Crazymaking, Emotional Abuse, Gaslighting, lying, Manipulation, Minimizing, Relationships

Why don’t hurtful people stop hurting you? Why can’t they see the harm they are doing to the person they are supposed to care about? Emotional abuse is insidious....

Understanding the thought process behind manipulative behavior

January 14, 2020
Paul Colaianni
breadcrumbing, Crazymaking, Dating, deception, Emotional Abuse, Gaslighting, lying, Manipulation

Manipulation originates with the desire to have something and doing anything you can to get it. The extent that some people will go to get what they want may...

Dealing with adversity and toxic behavior in all your relationships

December 31, 2019
Paul Colaianni
Anger, Control, Crazymaking, Emotional Abuse, lying, Manipulation, Relationships

There’s something that family, coworkers, friends, and even romantic partners can all have a common: They can sometimes be difficult to talk to. Some have opposing beliefs and values....

Emotionally abusive behavior breaks apart what could be a good relationship

December 12, 2019
Paul Colaianni
Control, Emotional Abuse, Gaslighting, Manipulation, Narcissism, Relationships, self-esteem, self-worth

Emotional abuse and controlling, manipulative behavior have no place in a relationship. Whether it’s romantic or with a family member or friend, the toxicity of hurtful behavior simply destroys...

You will never, ever be good enough for a manipulative and controlling person

November 27, 2019
Paul Colaianni
Control, Crazymaking, Emotional Abuse, Gaslighting, Guilt, Manipulation, Relationships, self-esteem, self-worth

Should you love more, do more, or be more for another person who never seems to be happy? One method of control is to make sure you’re always trying...

Kind words carefully crafted to plant the seed of guilt and shame

November 21, 2019
Paul Colaianni
Crazymaking, deception, Emotional Abuse, Gaslighting, Guilt, Manipulation, Relationships, Shame

Some people have a clever way of making you feel bad about yourself by complimenting you and using positive, supportive words that make it seem like they really care....

Why you get conned into the psychologically abusive relationship

November 16, 2019
Paul Colaianni
Control, Crazymaking, deception, Emotional Abuse, Gaslighting, lying, Manipulation, Narcissism, Relationships

If you’ve ever wondered why you felt a connection with someone that turned out to be controlling and manipulative, you were probably manipulated from day one. And it’s possible...