What does it take for an abusive person to change? A whole lot (if they even want to change), but their consistent focus on you can make their healing...
The one-off difficulties in relationships are perfectly normal for everyone. We all have them. They’re not welcome, necessarily, but normal. But what happens when the “one-offs” become systemic? What...
When they threaten to leave or take something away from you, but they never follow through, expect them to repeat that behavior indefinitely. Empty threats are effective on those...
“Everything’s great with me,” they say, as you sit there staring, confused, wondering what the hell you’re missing because you’re having a completely different experience as them. When is...
Some people just won’t stop being hurtful. Why won’t they stop? Are they just terrible people we have to accept and move on? Power and control is their M.O....
There’s a clever manipulation that can happen in some emotionally abusive relationships. It starts with superficial kindness and vague promises and leads to blameshifting and avoiding true accountability. This...
The cycle of high ups and deep downs in a relationship is like being trapped in an emotional prison. There are moments of freedom and happiness, followed by a...
Why do people who claim to care about us hurt us when they see that we’re suffering? Shouldn’t our suffering be enough for them to stop the behaviors? It’s...
Your religious or spiritual beliefs are supposed to help uplift and inspire you, not make you feel oppressed and exhausted. Religious abuse happens when people who claim to love...
Why can’t they just change? Why don’t they just stop hurting you? Sometimes they’ve built such a huge wall of protection around themselves that nothing can penetrate it. They...
