Short, informative, and very important lessons for your mental health and well-being.
New lessons added all the time.
Why I Feel Guilty for Being Upset at My Partner?
Read the rest…: Why I Feel Guilty for Being Upset at My Partner?You get hurt by something they said or did, and instead of feeling justified in your upset, you feel bad for being upset! Your partner…
When you forgive but you are still angry
Read the rest…: When you forgive but you are still angryForgiveness doesn’t erase what happened. It doesn’t rewind time or undo the damage. And it definitely doesn’t mean you have to stop feeling angry about…
The Covert Contracts Abusive Some People Write to Set You Up for Failure
Read the rest…: The Covert Contracts Abusive Some People Write to Set You Up for FailureThey’re angry at you for something you didn’t know you were supposed to do. They’re disappointed because you failed a test you didn’t know you…
Moving the Goalposts: When someone constantly changes their expectations to make sure you never feel good enough.
Read the rest…: Moving the Goalposts: When someone constantly changes their expectations to make sure you never feel good enough.You finally did what they asked. You cleaned the house exactly how they wanted, you dressed the way they preferred, you changed your schedule to…
Deflection and redirection in the emotionally abusive relationship
Read the rest…: Deflection and redirection in the emotionally abusive relationshipWhen you bring up something that hurt you to, and suddenly you’re defending yourself instead of being heard, that’s deflection. When you try to talk…
Passive aggressive ways you can be emotionally abused
Read the rest…: Passive aggressive ways you can be emotionally abusedWhen someone punishes you without ever raising their voice, you’re dealing with passive aggression. It’s hostility wrapped in silence, anger disguised as forgetfulness, and control…
Future Faking to Keep You Invested in a Relationship That’s Going Nowhere
Read the rest…: Future Faking to Keep You Invested in a Relationship That’s Going NowhereThey promise you everything. Marriage. Kids. The house with the white picket fence. They paint vivid pictures of your future together, describing exactly how happy…
Word Salad: Confusing you into submission
Read the rest…: Word Salad: Confusing you into submissionYou bring up one simple issue and suddenly you’re drowning in accusations, deflections, and topics that have nothing to do with what you said. That’s…
Hoovering: It sucks when the only time they act nice is when they want you back
Read the rest…: Hoovering: It sucks when the only time they act nice is when they want you backThey left you feeling worthless. They criticized everything you did. They made you question your own reality. But now that you’ve finally had enough and…
Friends and Family Who Believe the Abuser Over You: The Flying Monkeys
Read the rest…: Friends and Family Who Believe the Abuser Over You: The Flying MonkeysEveryone loves them. Your friends think they’re amazing. Your family adores them. But when you try to explain what’s really happening behind closed doors, you’re…
Your empathy is a wonderful quality that some people take advantage of
Read the rest…: Your empathy is a wonderful quality that some people take advantage ofUnfortunately, the truth is that your kindness can be weaponized against you. The very qualities that make you a good person, your empathy, your compassion,…
The gift that keeps on taking: Love-bombing
Read the rest…: The gift that keeps on taking: Love-bombingThey shower you with attention like you’ve never experienced before. Texts every hour. Compliments that make you blush. Gifts for no reason. They tell you…
When they isolate you from friends and family
Read the rest…: When they isolate you from friends and familyThey tell you your best friend is a bad influence. They say your family doesn’t understand your relationship. They get upset every time you make…
“You’re the Problem, Not Me!” The Blame-Shifting Partner
Read the rest…: “You’re the Problem, Not Me!” The Blame-Shifting PartnerWhen everything that goes wrong becomes your fault, you start to believe it. They forgot to pay the bills? You should have reminded them. They…
My partner intimidates me
Read the rest…: My partner intimidates meSomeone you’re supposed to feel safe with should never make you feel small, scared, or constantly on edge. Intimidation in a relationship doesn’t always look…
Everything I do and say is minimized to be no big deal even though it’s important to me
Read the rest…: Everything I do and say is minimized to be no big deal even though it’s important to meWhen you share something that matters to you and the response is a dismissive shrug or a comment that makes it seem trivial, you start…
How do I build my confidence after leaving an abusive relationship?
Read the rest…: How do I build my confidence after leaving an abusive relationship?When you leave an emotionally abusive relationship, you might feel like a shell of who you used to be. The person you were before the…
How do I stop reacting to everything they do?
Read the rest…: How do I stop reacting to everything they do?When you find yourself reacting to every little thing they do, it’s easy to believe the problem is you. Maybe they’ve told you that you’re…
Should I stay in the relationship or leave?
Read the rest…: Should I stay in the relationship or leave?You’re probably reading this because you’ve asked yourself this question more times than you can count. The answer feels impossible to find because every time…
Why every conversation about my feelings turns into their complaints
Read the rest…: Why every conversation about my feelings turns into their complaintsYou start a conversation hoping to be heard. Maybe you want to talk about something that hurt you or share how you’ve been feeling. But…
I feel like I’m the only one trying in the relationship
Read the rest…: I feel like I’m the only one trying in the relationshipYou keep showing up. You keep trying to make things work. You’re the one initiating conversations about problems, suggesting solutions, and putting in the emotional…
Should I feel guilty for being relieved when my partner isn’t around?
Read the rest…: Should I feel guilty for being relieved when my partner isn’t around?When you notice yourself breathing easier the moment your partner leaves the house, that’s your body telling you something important. Relief shouldn’t be the primary…
When They Won’t Work on Themselves But Expect You to Stay
Read the rest…: When They Won’t Work on Themselves But Expect You to StayThe relationship keeps having the same problems, but only one person seems interested in fixing them. You bring up issues, suggest solutions, maybe even ask…
How do I talk to them without it turning into a fight?
Read the rest…: How do I talk to them without it turning into a fight?You’ve probably tried every approach you can think of. You’ve been calm, you’ve been direct, you’ve waited for the right moment, you’ve chosen your words…
How do I know if my relationship is emotionally abusive?
Read the rest…: How do I know if my relationship is emotionally abusive?When you’re in it, you can’t always see it clearly. You might wonder if what you’re experiencing is normal relationship stuff or something worse. You…
