Quick Lessons

When you start questioning whether your own thoughts are real, something has been systematically dismantled inside you. That doubt didn’t appear on its own. It…

It doesn’t make sense that someone who claims to love you would also hurt you. That is, until you understand that some people who hurt…

An apology that never leads to change starts to sound like a lullaby meant to put you back to sleep. It quiets the noise for…

When someone keeps telling you that you’re overreacting, eventually you start to believe them. You begin questioning whether your feelings are valid or if you’re…

When someone keeps holding you up against other people, they’re not trying to help you improve. They’re trying to shrink you. The comparisons might sound…

You know something’s wrong when the truth (at least what they claim is truth) always leaves you feeling smaller. There’s a particular brand of cruelty…

You bring up something that’s bothering you, and before you can finish your sentence, they’re packing a bag. You ask a simple question about their…

You told them you felt insecure about your body. Now every argument ends with a comment about your weight. You shared your fear of being…

You reach for your phone and notice they’ve already picked it up. Again. They’re scrolling through your messages, checking your call log, looking at your…

You wake up. You go through the motions. You smile when you’re supposed to. But if someone asked you right now, “Are you happy?” you’d…

They text you just enough to keep you interested. They make plans but cancel at the last minute. Maybe they say they love you, but…

Many emotionally abusive people can and do change. They usually require some sort of intervention or program for sure, but some will let go of…

You get hurt by something they said or did, and instead of feeling justified in your upset, you feel bad for being upset! Your partner…

Forgiveness doesn’t erase what happened. It doesn’t rewind time or undo the damage. And it definitely doesn’t mean you have to stop feeling angry about…

They’re angry at you for something you didn’t know you were supposed to do. They’re disappointed because you failed a test you didn’t know you…

You finally did what they asked. You cleaned the house exactly how they wanted, you dressed the way they preferred, you changed your schedule to…

When you bring up something that hurt you to, and suddenly you’re defending yourself instead of being heard, that’s deflection. When you try to talk…

When someone punishes you without ever raising their voice, you’re dealing with passive aggression. It’s hostility wrapped in silence, anger disguised as forgetfulness, and control…

They promise you everything. Marriage. Kids. The house with the white picket fence. They paint vivid pictures of your future together, describing exactly how happy…

You bring up one simple issue and suddenly you’re drowning in accusations, deflections, and topics that have nothing to do with what you said. That’s…

They left you feeling worthless. They criticized everything you did. They made you question your own reality. But now that you’ve finally had enough and…

Everyone loves them. Your friends think they’re amazing. Your family adores them. But when you try to explain what’s really happening behind closed doors, you’re…

Unfortunately, the truth is that your kindness can be weaponized against you. The very qualities that make you a good person, your empathy, your compassion,…

They shower you with attention like you’ve never experienced before. Texts every hour. Compliments that make you blush. Gifts for no reason. They tell you…

They tell you your best friend is a bad influence. They say your family doesn’t understand your relationship. They get upset every time you make…