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Love and Abuse: Learn about poisonous communication, toxic behavior, emotional abuse, and manipulation

In today’s world, emotional abuse, manipulative communication, and deceit are alarmingly prevalent, presenting a significant challenge to navigate life without encountering individuals intent

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deal with adversity in your relationshiphow to explain emotional abuse to othershow to explain narcissism to friends and familyHow to get them to stopHow to get your confidence and courage back after a toxic relationshipHow to know if I'm the emotional abuserHow to leave the abusive relationshipHow to live with an addictHow to make a decision about staying in a relationshipHow to pick the right therapistHow to stop being controllingHow to stop being emotionally abusivehow to stop emotional abuseHow to stop trying to manipulate your partnerHow to tell if you are being emotionally abusedHow would I know if I am being emotionally abused?How would I know if my partner is emotionally abusive?how you get into bad relationshipsHurt people hurt people but…husband cheating on mehusband is emotionally abusiveI am always feel like I lose every argumentI am never good enough for herI am never good enough for himI can only take so much hurtful behaviorI can't go anywhere without them following meI can't trust my decisions anymoreI don't feel like I can do anything rightI don't know if it's time to leave the relationshipI feel like I am not being listened toI feel like I've lost my passion for lifeI feel powerless with my partnerI feel so guilty for wanting to leaveI just want them to suffer after all they did to meI lost myself in the relationshipI never win an argument with my partnerI told them to stop emotionally abusing mei tried to make my spouse happyI try hard to please my partner but they are never happyI used to be happy before I got into this relationshipI want my partner to changeI want them to hurt now that they've stopped hurting meI want to break up but they don'tI want to divorce but they won't leaveI'm afraid of getting a divorceI'm afraid to leave my relationshipI'm too scared to leave my partneringratiating deflectionIs an emotional affair okay?Is it my fault they are hurting me?Is it okay to cheat on the abuser?Is it possible to tell emotional abuse before it starts?Is it safe to share educational content on emotional abuse?Is it too late to leave the abuser?Is it unhealthy to love the abuser?Is the silent treatment emotional abuse?isolation in emotional abuseJudgement destroys relationshipsjudging your partnerKeep crawling back to the exkids of the narcissistic parentlearning to survive and thrive from verbal abuseLetting them back inLoving abusive peopleLoving the abusive partnerMaking me feel ashamedMaking me feel guiltymanipulative behavior while datingmanipulator talks endlesslyMy family thinks I'm the emotional abuserMy feelings are not being validatedMy partner is an addict and hurts meMy partner is being emotionally abusiveMy partner is emotionally needyMy relationship was great until the psychological abusemy spouse cheated on me and blamed menarcissistic abuse eats away at youNavigating Complex Relationshipsnever do anything rightnever good enoughnew relationship warning signsno matter how nice i amno one sees what I see about themNothing I do is good enoughOne-Sided Relationshipoverly emotionalPath to healthy relationshipsPath to RecoveryPeople think my partner is nice but they're notpretending in the relationshippublic humiliationreacting to facebook postsReactive abuseReciprocity MattersRecognizing emotional abuseReconnecting with yourself after emotional abusered flagsRegaining self-identityRelationship boundaries with their parentsReligious abuseResponding to emotionally abusive spouseReturning to the relationshipSays nice things but I still feel awfulSeeking freedom assertivelysees me suffer but still hurts meselfish people don't care about youselfish people take your powershamingSharing custody with the narcissistShould I leave again?Should I leave my relationship once and for all?Should I leave my relationship?Should I leave the emotionally abusive person?Should I share what I learned about emotional abuse with my partner?Should I stay in an emotionally abusive relationship?Should I stay or leave the relationship?Should I stay with them even though they treat me badly?Should I tell my partner I'm leaving?Should I tell the abuser I'm leaving?sneaky emotional abusesomeone stealing my powerStop hurting those you lovestuck with a controlling partnerStuck with the emotional abuser foreversuicidesuspect my spouseTaking a breakTaking a break in the relationshipThe breaking pointThe psychologically abusive relationshipThe silent treatmentThe smear campaign in emotionally abusive relationshipsThe thought process behind manipulationThey are always irritated with meThey are never happyThey are so clingy and I have no me timeThey are so hurtful because of their addictionThey convince me to stay in the relationshipThey do not care if I am hurt or upsetThey leave and get into another relationship fastThey're always frustrated when we talkthreaten to kill themselvestoo sensitiveToo vulnerable to be realTransforming abusive behaviorTrauma bondTrauma bond challengestrauma bondingtraumatic bondingtry harder and harderturning facts into liesUnreciprocated KindnessUsing religion to control youwants to control everything i dowarning signs of emotional abuse while datingWe broke up and now I feel guiltywearing you down with lectureWhat am I doing wrong in my relationship?What are the signs of emotional abuse when dating?What are the signs of emotional abuse?What happens if they don't stop being abusive?What if I don't know which decision is best?What if my partner is manipulative?What if they won't stop emotionally abusing me?What is acceptable behavior and what is not?What is breadcrumbing?What is crazymaking?What is emotional abuse?What is gaslighting?What is reactive abuse?What makes a couple compatible with each other?What should I do if my ex won't stop stalking me?What will people say when I divorce?What you will and won't acceptWhen boundaries don't workWhen is the right time to leave an abusive person?When people use their depression to make you feel badWhen social media makes you angryWhen someone tries to make you feel badWhen someone uses your beliefs against youWhen the abuser apologizesWhen the emotional abuser stops abusingwhen they blame their traumaWhen they stop hurting youWhen will they stop drinking?When you want your ex to stay awaywhen you're dependent on the abuserWhen you're constantly defending yourselfWhen your heart closesWhich one of us is the emotional abuser?Who are you when the emotional abuse stops?Whose fault is the cheating?Why are they so defensive?Why can't they just treat me nice?Why do I feel so guilty for leaving my partner?Why do I have to constantly explain myself?Why do you have to forgive others?Why does my partner continue to emotionally abuse me?Why don't abusive people leave the relationship?Why is my partner so hurtful toward me?Why won't they leave?Why won't they stop hurting me?why you keep getting into abusive relationshipswife is emotionally abusiveWill I ever be able to return to an emotionally abusive person?Will there be love again after emotional abuse?Will they stop hurting me?Won't stop hurting meWorking with personal boundaries in the emotionally abusive relationshipYears of emotional abuse and now I want them to suffer

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Love and Abuse: Learn about poisonous communication, toxic behavior, emotional abuse, and manipulation

In today’s world, emotional abuse, manipulative communication, and deceit are alarmingly prevalent, presenting a significant challenge to navigate life without encountering individuals intent […]

February 7, 2019

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Don’t dismiss the red flags of manipulation and deception

In this article, I’m diving deep into a topic that’s both complex and critical: emotional abuse, manipulation, deceptive language, and any actions someone […]

February 8, 2019

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The “You’re too sensitive” game

People who tell you you’re too sensitive are minimizing your experience and invalidating your emotions. […]

February 12, 2019

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Watching out for emotional predators. Are you being brainwashed into becoming a manipulation or emotional abuse victim?

You can be “groomed” into becoming the victim of emotional abuse or manipulation. Just like a child predator will groom his or her […]

February 15, 2019

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Am I The Emotionally Abusive One? What are the signs of an emotionally abusive person?

Do you think you are the person causing the problems in your relationship? Is your partner or family right about what they said […]

February 18, 2019

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When You’re Constantly Defending Yourself

Some people use a specific control tactic to avoid accountability for their bad behaviors: they keep you busy defending yourself. This approach allows […]

February 19, 2019

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Recognizing you are being emotionally abused when you don’t see the signs

When you can’t see the symptoms of manipulation or emotional abuse, do either actually exist? Is there a way to tell when you’re […]

February 27, 2019

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Selfish people just don’t really care about you

If you’ve ever wondered why someone could be so cruel, it’s time to accept that selfish people just don’t care about you. Selfish […]

March 1, 2019

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Remembering only the good times can sometimes perpetuate the bad times

It takes two humble people to work at the relationship, not one that’s always blaming the other. When one person is always blaming […]

March 3, 2019

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Confusing you into submission: A common manipulation you may fall for again and again

Have you ever sat there feeling confused, frustrated or running out of patience listening to someone talk and talk? There is actually a […]

March 6, 2019

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When manipulative people change your reality: Crazymaking and Gaslighting

Gaslighting and crazymaking are one in the same – they are both terms to describe a person that wants you to feel like […]

March 11, 2019

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The texts after the breakup: When breadcrumbing keeps you from reaching closure

Some people have a strange way of showing they care by sending you small messages out of the blue to get you to […]

March 12, 2019

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Are you with a manipulative person?

Would you know if you were being manipulated? Do you know what to look for? Manipulative people are experts at toxic language and […]

March 13, 2019

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The narcissist under the hood – The difficulty of explaining emotional abuse to friends and family

One of the biggest challenges for someone dealing with a manipulative or narcissistic partner is that others don’t see what happens behind closed […]

March 15, 2019

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Yes, there are people that know how to control you and steal your power

We are often told that we can choose how to feel and that no one can actually control us. However, in emotional abuse […]

March 23, 2019

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How you enable manipulative and controlling behavior by being your wonderful self

When you are kind, generous and caring, and you get controlling and manipulative behavior in return, you may be the very cause of […]

March 27, 2019

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There is nothing you could have done differently, emotional abuse would have happened anyway

Many emotional abuse victims believe they are at fault for the abuse, as if there is behavior they did to bring it on. […]

April 10, 2019

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Stopping the downward spiral of unhealthy communication patterns with self-reflection

Sometimes a conversation with a certain person always seems to lead down a path of misery. You end up feeling bad and can’t […]

April 22, 2019

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In love with someone that wants it both ways: Healing from the obsession over the unhealthy relationship

Are you waiting for someone else to change so that you can get what you want? In this episode, I talk about an […]

April 23, 2019

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Emotionally abusive isolation and how it ensures you lose your friends, family, and support system

Isolation occurs when someone wants to keep you from your friends, family, and support structures. You will become more dependent on the one […]

May 6, 2019

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Are they for real: Is it all lies and deception or are you just going nuts?

The actor in the relationship can fool the best of us. When you can’t tell what’s an act and what’s real, you soon […]

May 17, 2019

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It takes two to build and one to destroy: The cheating partner works alone

When the partner of a cheater carries guilt, thinking their own behavior caused the cheating, the relationship can disintegrate even further, destroying the […]

May 24, 2019

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Have they really changed or are they faking it? Learning to differentiate between true change and acting.

When someone in your life claims to have changed and promises to stop behaving badly, have they truly changed, or are they just […]

May 27, 2019

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Identifying the signs of toxic or manipulative behavior while dating

It can be a challenge to see the signs of toxic behavior when you first start dating someone, especially if things seem to […]

May 29, 2019

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How judgment in relationships destroys love and connection

Judgment is the ultimate relationship destroyer. It is the key to creating a rift so wide that the relationship issues might get to […]

June 17, 2019

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You can’t fix emotional abuse, you can only heal yourself and hope they do the same

Trying to work as hard as you can to fix things you didn’t break is exhausting and demoralizing. The first step to healing […]

July 10, 2019

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The toxic relationship alters your view of reality making you think your future is dark

When you’re in the thick of a toxic relationship, all you can see is a dark future with no way out. This skewed […]

July 16, 2019

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Emotional Abuse explained for your friends, family, attorney, therapist or anyone else that may need to know what you’re experiencing

Emotional abuse victims have a very difficult time trying to explain what’s happening to them to their friends and family. Often, loving, supportive […]

August 4, 2019

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Don’t show them how crazy you feel and sharing custody with the emotional abuser

Emotional abusers can make you feel crazy. They will convince you you’ve said things you didn’t say, they’ll remind you about conversations you’ve […]

August 7, 2019

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When you love the emotional abuser so much you won’t leave

When you are in love with the person mistreating you, is there a way to improve the relationship? Can you make them understand […]

September 4, 2019

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If you leave me, I’ll kill myself – The ultimate abuse of your empathy and compassion

Confronting the ultimate manipulation in a relationship, the threat of suicide is a very troubling and often abusive tactic. It’s a scenario that […]

September 25, 2019

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When someone tarnishes your good name and reputation – The Smear Campaign

The smear campaign is a card often played by narcissists, sociopaths, and other emotional abusers to make you look like the bad guy. […]

October 9, 2019

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Is your response to their bad behavior emotional abuse?

After months or years of being emotionally abused, you may find yourself doing behavior that resembles the same type of behavior you’re a […]

October 15, 2019

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An analysis of emotional abuse: Breaking down the bad behavior

When someone shows you every single red flag you need to determine there is lying, control, and manipulation going on, at what point […]

October 25, 2019

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How to stop being hurtful and controlling with the people you love

When you hurt someone you love, you’re letting them know that they are not that important in your life. After all, why would […]

November 5, 2019

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Why you get conned into the psychologically abusive relationship

If you’ve ever wondered why you felt a connection with someone that turned out to be controlling and manipulative, you were probably manipulated […]

November 16, 2019

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Kind words carefully crafted to plant the seed of guilt and shame

Some people have a clever way of making you feel bad about yourself by complimenting you and using positive, supportive words that make […]

November 21, 2019

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You will never, ever be good enough for a manipulative and controlling person

Should you love more, do more, or be more for another person who never seems to be happy? One method of control is […]

November 27, 2019

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Emotionally abusive behavior breaks apart what could be a good relationship

Emotional abuse and controlling, manipulative behavior have no place in a relationship. Whether it’s romantic or with a family member or friend, the […]

December 12, 2019

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Dealing with adversity and toxic behavior in all your relationships

There’s something that family, coworkers, friends, and even romantic partners can all have a common: They can sometimes be difficult to talk to. […]

December 31, 2019

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Understanding the thought process behind manipulative behavior

Manipulation originates with the desire to have something and doing anything you can to get it. The extent that some people will go […]

January 14, 2020

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Yes, the emotional abuser can change, but…

Why don’t hurtful people stop hurting you? Why can’t they see the harm they are doing to the person they are supposed to […]

January 30, 2020

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When you are triggered by your Facebook friends: Staying out of abusive interactions on social media

If you’ve never gotten triggered by someone’s post on social media, you may be one of the lucky few. It’s those times you […]

February 6, 2020

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When the emotional abuse stops, can the relationship continue?

When the trust breaks and there is no love left in the relationship, but the emotional abuse stops, is there a chance for […]

February 12, 2020

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The Turn-Around game: How emotionally abusive people keep you busy explaining and defending yourself

Why does it always seem like you have to constantly explain or defend yourself with certain people? Are you just not coming through […]

February 29, 2020

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Connecting all the dots of emotionally abusive and manipulative behavior

Sometimes you just can’t figure out if perhaps what you’re experiencing is abusive or manipulative behavior. You may even think perhaps you’re overreacting […]

March 24, 2020

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When boundaries don’t work and how to pick the right therapist

Do boundaries work with emotional abusers? I received this question from someone who has tried almost everything to work with her emotionally abusive […]

April 3, 2020

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Both sides of emotional abuse: The offensive abuser and the defensive abuser

Sometimes emotional abuse in adult relationships is the result of childhood trauma, neglect, or abuse. Sometimes it’s the result of the other person […]

April 15, 2020

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You don’t have to forgive the person that hurt you

If someone hurt you, abused you, or wronged you in some way and you’re still holding on to upset or anger toward them, […]

May 7, 2020

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Emotional abuse drains you and makes you believe terrible things about yourself

There is a direct cause and effect when you are exposed to manipulative and controlling behavior. It can take a physical toll on […]

May 22, 2020

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