Why can’t they just change? Why don’t they just stop hurting you?
Sometimes they’ve built such a huge wall of protection around themselves that nothing can penetrate it. They keep doing what they’re doing because they don’t want you to see what’s behind the wall. It’s too vulnerable, and it might require them to express a part of themselves they’ve hidden away all their life.
 | Paul Colaianni Paul Colaianni is a Behavior and Relationship Specialist with experience analyzing complex relationship dynamics since 2010. As the creator of the Healed Being program and host of the top-rated Love and Abuse and The Overwhelmed Brain podcasts, with over 21 million downloads worldwide, he specializes in the mechanics of behavioral change and the identification of hidden manipulation. |
